Githerii!

 

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I know, this is definitely not the Sunday wisdom you were hoping to enjoy. Because these days we're all about Positive Vibes (Only), or Positive Vibes (Except for the People We Hate). And githeri isn't exactly on-brand, you know? But life is such a githeri of good and bad, with the boring in between. You can't take the beans or maize alone and call it githeri, can you?

Githeri is so January, sindio? 

The thing about life, as I was saying, is that it keeps going on. On and on and on. Yaani. Father Time does not care whether your heart is broken, or you didn't get the grade, or the job, or the girl . He has so many kids, you think he cares about you? Ebu. 

I'm not ordinarily this philosophical, except for the days I get sugar rush and call [particulars withheld] at 1am to give him advice. And even then, I give terrible advice. I'm not being coy, I just recognize that I've not gone through even 3 percent of what I think I know. (Learning that was NOT FUN). I think so many things though, so I suppose it doesn't go to waste.

I've said so many things already, and I'm not ordinarily very objective once I start saying things. Lol. Lemme do a list. 

1. All things come to an end. 

The above statement is:

a. A suitable motto to start off the year after graduation, 

b. Depressing AF

I feel mixed. I should mourn the end of predictability, but also the beginning of true wisdom. (Street Smarts™, ha!). Some days I wake up and I want to dash back to school and ask them whether they're sure I didn't leave out any unit. Other days I want to leave the country (idk to go where because I am [particulars withheld] ) 

What stands out (aside from Claudia's hair, which is **OUTSTANDING) is that the grace to leave is not equally granted. Which does not make sense in this context, but can be applied to several contexts. Some parts of our identity, our pasts, our experiences we gladly abandon and shed off, others, not so readily. If you're as sentimental as I am, you know what I'm talking about. If you're still pretending you aren't, heal. 

I could, at this point, slap some Good Vibes™ on here and call it a day. Maybe I could say endings are beautiful, or we can Manifest™ peace and Intuitive Guidance™ towards our Higher Purpose™

But, hold your horses, Edna.*** 

You

Do 

Not

Know

What 

You 

Are

Doing. 

You're terrified. And you're drowning. Alone. Everyone around you seems to be dancing and singing happily as though they're in a Musical of some sort. People know what they want. Manifestation (aki I'm sorry, I'm about to give an unpopular opinion) DOES NOT WORK. You'll wake up everyday, do the manifestations and affirmations and burn sage. But if you were That Powerful™ in the first place, then you wouldn't be here, sindio? 

It's okay to be scared. And a little out of your depth. Even if lately, that's all you are. And it's okay for you to feel like you could be doing something more Meaningful™. You totally could be changing the world right now, true. But you aren't. And this probably won't be the last time you feel like this. 

(Is this why nobody is asking for my motivational services? Ha!) 

The biggest favor you can do yourself is take a deep breath, first because this sentence is Hella long which I hear gets readers out of breath, and second, bumps and portholes and roadblocks and small accidents are the spice of life and life is githeri,ya?

I was saying, life is githeri. No, that's not what I was saying. 😆

I was saying, this won't be the last time you feel like this. Which is a blessing, because now you get to prepare for the next time you feel like this. Next time won't be so bad. Work on it. Sawa?

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***I don't actually know an Edna irl, so if you're an Edna and you're offended, aki pole. Follow me on Instagram (@si.urelax) we talk. If you know an Edna, tell her to follow me. It's probably rude of me to ask, but I'm sure our wonderful editor can edit this bit out. 

2. What's your narrative? 

My dad is legit the most patient and slow to anger person I know (and wueh, I tried him when I was younger). But there's one thing that is GUARANTEED to get a reaction out of him; negative talk. 

About literally anything. 

I never understood it, because even the jokes we'd make wouldn't fly. He'd make me or my siblings apologize immediately for even thinking such things. 

But as I got older, I realized more and more how true his assertion was. 

Babe, literally ANYTHING can happen to you. One minute you'll be fine, the next something earth-shattering hits you. It's part of the githeri. And I believe we'll each experience great growth each time we hit point zero. 

Listen. 

Be very careful what narrative you tell yourself. 

The boat will sway, sometimes it will sway violently. Sometimes the ship will sink. Sometimes you're the one who made a hole in it. But whatever happens, however it happens, take charge of the narrative. 

And don't worry about the narrative that other people have, that's absolutely irrelevant. Don't get emotionally attached to your reputation (may I never have to repeat this lesson) because people twist words, and that's none of your business. 

Take care of what you tell yourself. 

And I mean this in every form of the word. What you think about yourself, what you say about yourself and what you do. 

Don't do anything to show disloyalty to yourself. We are called to be at peace with all people, and to forgive, but you have a responsibility to have the conversation with yourself first. (Completely in tandem with the fact that you have to behave like an adult as well). Self-parenting. The soft life and cancel culture should not lie to you. Uncancelling is humbling, wah. Just ask me. 

Speaking of cancel culture, someone (who apparently got canceled on the bird app, but you didn't hear it from me bc in 2021 I am facing my front ) once wrote that "You are the idea of yourself that you have chosen to accept" 

Fix that narrative. 

Don't be a victim for free. Make it count, okay? 

All within the githeri, of course. (I have to add this here so that I don't do an Amerix™ type of paragraph. For the culture.) 

*****

Nash

P. S

Claudia's hair truly has been outstanding, Since 2013. I type this boldly knowing that akinitafuta hatanipata. 

P. P. S. 

Heyyyyyyyyyyyy!